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  • The Four Questions Are Leaving on a Jet Plane

    What is Dave wearing today? Dave is monochromatic today in a lightweight black Nike shirt, a lightweight light gray zip-up hoodie, a pair of dark gray travel pants, and white Stan Smiths. How does Dave feel today? Dave is chilly.  What are…

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  • The Four Questions on the Fourth of July

    What is Dave wearing today? Dave is wearing a bright pink polo shirt and blue basketball shorts.  How does Dave feel today? Dave is sleepy.  What are the factors affecting Dave’s mood today? Dave and the Complimentary Spouse spend the day lounging around the…

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  • Picture It: The Four Questions, Sicily, 1929

    What is Dave wearing today? Dave is wearing a weird blue/green polo shirt and mustard yellow shorts. How does Dave feel today? Dave is happy. What are the factors affecting Dave’s mood today? Dave and the Complimentary Spouse are celebrating…

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  • How We Tied the Knot

    How We Tied the Knot

    The Complimentary Spouse and I tend to crow about our anniversary every year, and there’s a good reason why we’re so excited about it. When we met in 2002, marriage for a same-sex couple was unimaginable. How we got from…

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  • The Four Questions Are Everywhere You Want to Be

    What is Dave wearing today? Dave is wearing a black Lightning T-shirt and gray shorts. How does Dave feel today? Dave is excited. What are the factors affecting Dave’s mood today? Dave and the Complimentary Spouse are waiting for tonight’s big game — a win…

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  • Where Have All the Four Questions Gone?

    What is Dave wearing today? Dave is prepared for anything in a black polo shirt and gray shorts. He’s also wearing a brand new pair of Stan Smiths. How does Dave feel today? Dave feels full.  What are the factors affecting Dave’s…

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  • 🏳️‍🌈 History’s Biggest Celebration of Pride — 50 Years After Stonewall

    The biggest LGBTQ event in history1 was exactly two years ago today — and the Complimentary Spouse and I were there! More than five million people participated in WorldPride. It was legendary. The parade had hundreds of floats, thousands of…

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  • 🏳️‍🌈 Animal Magnetism

    Animals can be gay! Scientists have observed same-sex behavior, including pair bonding and parenting, in many species. My favorite same-sex animal couple is Roy and Silo, a pair of chinstrap penguins at the Central Park Zoo. When an opposite-sex penguin…

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  • 🏳️‍🌈 Where It all Began

    Anything I write about the Stonewall Riots, which began 52 years ago today, will pale in comparison to what others have said. Let’s just say that the shot glass heard ’round the world changed millions of lives for the better.

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  • 🏳️‍🌈 Before Stonewall

    While Stonewall was the event that galvanized the LGBT rights movement, there were many organizations advocating for equality before the first brick was thrown. Two of the most famous are the Mattachine Society, founded in 1950 to support gay men,…

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  • 🏳️‍🌈 Marriage Equality at Last

    Six years ago today, the Supreme Court ruled for marriage equality in Obergefell v. Hodges. It’s hard to describe to straight people exactly how momentous this was. This passage is one of the most profound things I have ever read:…

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  • 🏳️‍🌈 Sickening

    In 1973, the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality from its list of mental illnesses. Before that watershed decision, LGBTQ people were seen as sick people in need of a cure. Today, the medical community is often at the forefront of…

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