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How We Tied the Knot
The Complimentary Spouse and I tend to crow about our anniversary every year, and there’s a good reason why we’re so excited about it. When we met in 2002, marriage for a same-sex couple was unimaginable. How we got from…
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The Four Questions Are Everywhere You Want to Be
What is Dave wearing today? Dave is wearing a black Lightning T-shirt and gray shorts. How does Dave feel today? Dave is excited. What are the factors affecting Dave’s mood today? Dave and the Complimentary Spouse are waiting for tonight’s big game — a win…
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Where Have All the Four Questions Gone?
What is Dave wearing today? Dave is prepared for anything in a black polo shirt and gray shorts. He’s also wearing a brand new pair of Stan Smiths. How does Dave feel today? Dave feels full. What are the factors affecting Dave’s…
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🏳️🌈 History’s Biggest Celebration of Pride — 50 Years After Stonewall
The biggest LGBTQ event in history1 was exactly two years ago today — and the Complimentary Spouse and I were there! More than five million people participated in WorldPride. It was legendary. The parade had hundreds of floats, thousands of…
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🏳️🌈 Animal Magnetism
Animals can be gay! Scientists have observed same-sex behavior, including pair bonding and parenting, in many species. My favorite same-sex animal couple is Roy and Silo, a pair of chinstrap penguins at the Central Park Zoo. When an opposite-sex penguin…
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🏳️🌈 Where It all Began
Anything I write about the Stonewall Riots, which began 52 years ago today, will pale in comparison to what others have said. Let’s just say that the shot glass heard ’round the world changed millions of lives for the better.
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🏳️🌈 Before Stonewall
While Stonewall was the event that galvanized the LGBT rights movement, there were many organizations advocating for equality before the first brick was thrown. Two of the most famous are the Mattachine Society, founded in 1950 to support gay men,…
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🏳️🌈 Marriage Equality at Last
Six years ago today, the Supreme Court ruled for marriage equality in Obergefell v. Hodges. It’s hard to describe to straight people exactly how momentous this was. This passage is one of the most profound things I have ever read:…
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🏳️🌈 Sickening
In 1973, the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality from its list of mental illnesses. Before that watershed decision, LGBTQ people were seen as sick people in need of a cure. Today, the medical community is often at the forefront of…
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🏳️🌈 The UpStairs Lounge Massacre
Today is the 48th anniversary of the UpStairs Lounge massacre. The UpStairs Lounge was a gay bar in the French Quarter of New Orleans. Someone set fire to the bar, and 32 people died from fire or asphyxiation. It is…
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🏳️🌈 Go Back to Political Party City Where You Belong
When people say “both political parties are essentially the same,” I just want to cut a bitch. When it comes to LGBTQ people, there is an enormous rift between Democrats and Republicans. In 1980 — yes, 41 years ago —…
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🏳️🌈 45 Years
The battle for marriage equality goes back to 1970. Richard Baker and James McConnell applied for a marriage license in Minnesota. They were denied, so they sued claiming that state law made no mention of gender as it pertained to…