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A Flowbituary for Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, a world-renowned psychologist and the author of “Flow,” died yesterday. Csikszentmihalyi’s work has played a role in my life for the past year or so. In 2020, I participated in a workshop for people looking to reboot or reinvent their careers. The workshop was something of a bust…
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Around the World in 15 Elephant Photos
In 2003, on a layover in Dallas on our way from Denver to Tampa, the Complimentary Spouse and I were downcast after an upsetting incident with his family. To cheer Britt up, I bought him a little stuffed elephant at a kiosk.1 We named the elephant Daal because he came…
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Should We Bar Bond From the Bar?
Actor Daniel Craig, who is straight, says he prefers gay bars to straight ones, and I have conflicting thoughts. On the one hand, what’s the harm in letting allies into gay spaces? It benefits the LGBTQ community when other people see us living our lives authentically. We are no longer…
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Dangerous Lies-isons
How curious that both stories above the fold in today’s St. Petersburg Times are about delusional people trying to delude the public: Trump Won Florida, But Online and at Your Door, his Supporters Are Trying to Force an Audit: The goal is to sow doubt and discord to delegitimize the…
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How We Tied the Knot
The Complimentary Spouse and I tend to crow about our anniversary every year, and there’s a good reason why we’re so excited about it. When we met in 2002, marriage for a same-sex couple was unimaginable. How we got from there to here is an amazing story, one that’s inextricably…
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🏳️🌈 History’s Biggest Celebration of Pride — 50 Years After Stonewall
The biggest LGBTQ event in history1 was exactly two years ago today — and the Complimentary Spouse and I were there! More than five million people participated in WorldPride. It was legendary. The parade had hundreds of floats, thousands of marchers, and at least three million gallons of glitter. Here’s…
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🏳️🌈 Animal Magnetism
Animals can be gay! Scientists have observed same-sex behavior, including pair bonding and parenting, in many species. My favorite same-sex animal couple is Roy and Silo, a pair of chinstrap penguins at the Central Park Zoo. When an opposite-sex penguin couple couldn’t take care of a second egg, Roy and…
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🏳️🌈 Where It all Began
Anything I write about the Stonewall Riots, which began 52 years ago today, will pale in comparison to what others have said. Let’s just say that the shot glass heard ’round the world changed millions of lives for the better.
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🏳️🌈 Before Stonewall
While Stonewall was the event that galvanized the LGBT rights movement, there were many organizations advocating for equality before the first brick was thrown. Two of the most famous are the Mattachine Society, founded in 1950 to support gay men, and the Daughters of Bilitis, founded in 1955 for lesbians.…
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🏳️🌈 Marriage Equality at Last
Six years ago today, the Supreme Court ruled for marriage equality in Obergefell v. Hodges. It’s hard to describe to straight people exactly how momentous this was. This passage is one of the most profound things I have ever read: “No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies…
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